Common Parenting Styles
Parenting is strictly is a personal practice based on the mind and wishes of two people; namely the father and mother. It is foolishness to define rules for parenting and forcing parents to follow clear-cut paths of parenting. Researchers have revealed that there are four common parenting types. Parenting is not a single activity, but the total of approaches and behavioral patterns used to care and groom children. The parenting styles are based on the entire specific behavioral patterns that influence the mental developments of children.
Experts suggest four different styles of parenting generally known as the parenting patterns. They are namely authoritarian parenting, authoritative parenting, permissive parenting and uninvolved parenting. Each of these patterns follows certain styles and behavioral pattern of parenting. Each of these styles influence the overall all emotional and psychological growth of children. These patterns differ in disciplinary measures, warmth and nurturance tactics, communication methods and control and maturity levels. Each style differs in the ways of executing the training methods on children.
Authoritarian parenting is similar to monarchic administration. In this style, parents establish must to follow rules and regulations for children. Minor failure to obey these guidelines will result in punishment. This is the most unproductive and closed way of parenting as in authoritarian parenting parents never explain the importance of following the rules, or they simply do not bother to understand the emotional or feeling level of kids who may wonder why to follow rules.
Authoritarian parents do not tolerate kids questioning their authority on kids. Kids are expected to follow blindly what is ordered by the parents. In authoritarian parenting parents demand too much from the kids and at the same time they neglect the responsibilities towards kids. No explanation and no advice is given to children but only commands and punishments. Needless to say, this is a destructive parenting style, rather influencing and creative.
Authoritative parenting is much lenient style compared to authoritarian parenting. It is more like the democratic style of administration and training. In authoritative parenting, parents still hold the authority, but are tolerant enough to the doubts and questions of the kids. They do not just insist the children to obey blindly, but make them understand why to obey the rules and regulations. It is a demanding and responsible type of parenting. It is not through punishments, but through nurturing and advises parents influence the kids to follow rules and form disciplinary lifestyle. Authoritarian parenting is restrictive while authoritative parenting is assertive. The mentality of parents change entirely in this pattern and the intention behind executing commands is not to establish authority over children but to groom them to be responsible social beings.
Also known as indulgent parenting, permissive parenting is a pattern that follows strong intercommunication and self-control measures. In this pattern, parents allow kids to be groomed himself/herself. They do not demand the kids to follow strict orders and punish them heavily foe even minor mistakes. This is a give and take system. Parents nurture the kids and concern them properly and in return they expect mature and disciplined behavior from the kids. The responsibility levels are greater than the demands. Permissive parents allow children to be self regulated. More communication and friendly approach to kids is the exclusive feature of permissive parenting. A disadvantage of permissive parenting is that children may end up in troubles as they do not know the limits. All children may not responsibly react to the freedom given by parents.
Uninvolved parenting is considered to be the worst among parenting. As the names suggests in uninvolved parenting the involvement of parents in parenting process is zero. They do not communicate effectively with kids or get involved in their grooming. They leave the kids to grow their own. Uninvolved parenting doesn't mean that parents leave the kids to grow as orphans. But the responsibility level would be much lower than all other parenting styles. They care only to fulfill the basic needs of children. There won't be any attachment or affectionate practices between the kids and parents. It is said that many of the parents at the present time are forced to follow uninvolved parenting style. The busy schedules at work and the hustle and bustle of lifestyle keep parents away from kids. They seldom find time to spend with children. Experts suggest not to follow uninvolved parenting pattern as it is a highly destructive method of growing up kids.