Communicating with children is a skillful art. Kids just do not speak through the mouth. They use the entire body to communicate and convey. Gestures, body movements, look, cry... everything and everything tell you something. No one understands the children as effectively as parents. The great difficulty in communication with kids is that they lack a proper language. They are at the early stages of understanding and reproducing language based communicative sound and symbols.
What all kids use is gestures and imitations of parents communication. If you want to communicate properly with kids, understanding their minds is essential. Without communicating with kids, parents cannot train them, teach them or guide them. Childhood is vital period of grooming and disciplining. Thus conveying the feelings in the most perfect way to make kids understand is important. Communication also helps developing the emotional attachment between kids and parents.
Communication with children starts from listening to them. Kids are to be the starters. Let parents attentively listen and observe how children behave and convey things. Careful listing and observation help parents to understand how children convey their feelings and what gesture or action for each of the emotions.
- Knowing the kids expressions will help parents to learn what the kids want to say to them. Once you get the right path with kids, then interfere into their communication and integrate purified forms of language and gestures into their communication styles. Teach them words that stand for objects. When you feed them food, tell the word food or the name of the specific item you give them, this way children may learn the association between the object and the sound. Later they will pronounce the word to refer to the particular food item. This is the way of conditioning their language skills.
- Many parents communicate with children through punishments. When kids cry, they take out a stick or show a gesture of punishments to scare kids. Each parent has to know that punishment is the most destructive method of disciplining a child. Punishment means blame, shame and humiliation to children. Of course a punishment or gesture of possible punishment will communicate with the children and they may obey what parents say, but it is a negative way of conditioning the behavior of kids. You may succeed in creating very silent and obedient kids with punishment, but lack of self esteem, communication disabilities, depression etc., are the expected in the future life.
- Minor punishments are necessary to discipline certain kids, but when punishing the children, it is not to express the anger of the parents but to convey to the children the necessity of being good and well-mannered.
- Use proper language when talking to children. Kids learn everything easily in the childhood as they are born with a blank mind. What all parents teach at infancy can become integrated element of child's behavior. Thus, teaching proper language and communication is essential. Using proper language doesn't mean using the same language used between adults. But use the designated words for objects and teach kids the right words for basic human actions like walk, eat, sleep etc.
- Train kids to use the words for each of their requirements. If you talk to them in clear language, they will learn to respond back clearly. Talk to them with examples. If you want them to pick an apple and bring to you, show them an apple and ask them to bring an apple. Same way, if you want to tell them that his/her room is messy, point out on the objects that are scatters around and show them how to clan the room. Next time when you want them to bring and apple or want them to clean their rooms, you need to show them again, but just tell them verbally.
- Never avoid any of the questions from your children. Being highly curios at what all they see, children tend to ask questions all the time. However silly, the questions they ask, answer them properly. Avoiding them without attending their questions will make them not ask or talk to the parents. Encourage children whenever they talk, and include them in family talks. Constructive criticism and generous praise is suggested for children. Never talk bad about children to a third person in the presence of children. This will create adverse results. Never interrupt kids when they communicate or say something.
- Find time to spend with children and listen to them and talk to them. Kids love listeners than talkies. Listening to them will help to develop the verbal skill of children and also to excel in academic levels later in life.