Marriages are regarded as the most important social customs. In India it is all about tradition and values that makes the marriage a long life bonding. It is very rare that couple's do not have problems in such a long journey but the area of concern here is the shift of traditional marriages to troubled marriages.
Every relationship has its ups and downs and the successful couples have learned how to tackle the problems and work through the complex issues of everyday life. The reason these people are successful in marriage is a simple, they understand the value system of the society and follow it diligently.
Marriages have moved from the traditional arranged system to modern love cum arranged or intercaste marriage. There are many intercaste marriages and love marriages which are successful. So the problem is not in adoption of newer system of marriage but in forgetting the value system of our society that keeps the bonds intact for life.
The traditional values or samskaras are seen from the 2h. In natural zodiac the 2h and 7h belong to Venus. 2h is also the 8h from the 7h so longevity of marriage. 7h is 6h from the 2h hence the struggles in marriage should be dealt by following samskaras. Venus is the lord of both the houses hence there is a need to understand the role of Venus in depth. Venus a natural benefic represents a glory of what attracts beauty, glamour, gorgeous looks, style, fashion etc. and all that which is trendsetting and worthy of showcasing. Venus is natural significator for 4h. It is the undisputed significator for marriage, but for happiness, comfort and marital bliss, moon plays an important role along with Venus as it signifies happiness and comfort in relationship along with materialistic comforts of home. Venus expresses the emotions and the emotions are signified by moon.
Venus is also the planet to be seen for worldly goodies. Being the significator of fourth house and lord of 2h and 7h, we see wealth, family status and material comforts as the significations of these houses. Venus also signifies currency and gambling.
Venus in mythology is Shukracharya, a preacher. He was the preceptor of the demons and only one to be blessed with the Mrit-sanjivani vidya by Lord Shiva, due to his steadfastness devotion, being a perfect disciple, with total surrender, faith and absolute devotion. He was the only one to be blessed with ‘Mrit-sanjivani vidya' the Devine knowledge which permitted him to bring back 'the dead to life.' There are the two sides of Venus, on one side is adi-bhauthika, adi-daivika and adhyatmika and on the other side it is for worldly goodliness, pleasures and material comforts. The first side is for inner growth and the other side is for external existence.
The inner growth takes place with the samskaras and the external existence with adjusting to the changing times. Human mind is always evolving and today it is pragmatic and intellectual. There is a need to strike a balance between inner and outer growth.
Venus when exalted and un-afflicted gives contentment in life; debilitated and afflicted Venus gives discontent and disorientation with respect to happiness. People with afflicted Venus are more flamboyant.
Venus will give all happiness and comforts of married life if followed in a traditional way, that is by holding strongly on our value system on the contrary if it is followed as a way of trade for acquiring wealth then it will only give a troubled marriage.
We all strive for happiness but learn the hard way to find it. It eludes most of us throughout life. Happiness is an emotion and does not solely depend upon the prevalent system of marriage. There will always be positive aspect and negative aspect. But one thing is very clear with the dual lordship of Venus, that if there are samskaras then the person will always have a marriage which will nurture into a lifelong bonding. India being so rich in its tradition, culture and values will keep the relationship bonded even in very unfavourable situation. Thinking marriage as mutual arrangement brings the relationship to the materialistic level. Marriage is a sacred relationship and that's the great Indian tradition that makes our society a great one. The only demand of time is to understand value and respect our traditions.
The above factors are precautionary measures but what if marriage is already troubled. How do we determine the root cause of the problem and find where happiness lies? There is a great need to understand human birth. We are born on this planet which is always revolving and rotating on its own axis hence nothing is constant. We are moving with respect to space, time and causation. Astrologically Jupiter signifies space, Saturn signifies time, ketu signifies cause and rahu signifies effect respectively. The analysis of these planets tells us the reason and mission of our birth and how our life would be affected with changing times, which in turn depends on the dasha sequence. The dasha at birth is the starting point of our journey. Astrology can help in analysing the reasons for trouble in marriage, whether troubles are related to infidelity, arguments, children, problems with in-laws, financial issues, depression, anxiety or problems with relatives or friends, health issues, communication gap, etc. After the root cause of the problem is identified all the focus should be on the remedial measures for the trouble causing planet.
Troubled marriages; the following observations will pave the way towards happiness
- In-depth analysis of Venus. Venus signifies marriage and happiness. It is important to analysis Venus with respect to its position, aspect, conjunctions and condition of Venus in terms of its motion, closeness to sun and its afflictions. The prime purpose of marriage is procreation but the ultimate purpose of marriage is to grow together spiritually, by overcoming troubles and leading a happy married life. 4h is not just physical happiness but a stepping stone towards moksha, with synthesis of instinctual development. The analysis of Venus revels to where a person stands, between primary and ultimate purpose of marriage.
- In depth analysis of 2h second house is the house of succeeding wealth, possessions, money and values. The significance of houses plays at different levels, from material values and worth to spiritual values. 4h is third from the 2h so our efforts to happiness come from the value system.
- In-depth analysis of 4h fourth house, which is house of home, family, sense of belonging, emotional security, the role in family dynamics, bonding, and instinctual development.
The houses are the playing fields for the planets and provide us with a detailed map of our inner and outer life. They provide us with the information of a person's whereabouts in the life's journey.
Troubles are bound to come in life and marriage is no exception. All troubles do not end up in break-ups or divorce. Troubles when well directed lead to happiness and prosperity. It is just a play of time when a person has to face problems and witness traumatizing experiences. An astrologer should be consulted to identify the causes, get clear cut directives and direction to understand and solve the problems. Astrology should be used to benefit, save, and utilize time as Time is the essence of life. It is a driver, decider, deliverer of destiny and a key to all astrological predictions.