You can become a proactive participant in managing your melanoma. The ten tips can strengthen your sense of control, boost your feelings of hope, and enhance the quality of your life:

1.Live the moment: Try to focus on only today’s problems—take a deep breath, and take one step at a time.

2.Always ask/get support: Mingle with other and make them understand what you need.  It is important to be open with your loved ones, especially your family and friends about how they can support you. Hints will help and ask for certain help such as driving you to appointments, babysitting help, or going to the movies to take a break. Take the help of someone to accompany you to medical appointments to help you remember important information.

3.Be expressive and show your feelings: Take some time out to just to listen to your body and to the things you are saying to yourself. Once you become more aware of your feelings, you can express them by talking, writing, physical activity, or other creative pursuits. Joining a professionally facilitated cancer support group in your area, or online to address your feelings in a community with others who understand the stressors of melanoma.

4.Enjoy what you do: Indulge in activities that you enjoy and can do comfortably. Try to find new activities if you feel tired or have other limitations. Take the help of your friends or loved ones, friends to join you.  

5.Seek relaxation: “Relaxation” is a calm, controlled physical state to improve your well-being. Think about taking time out and to take relaxing breaks in your daily routine: listening to your favorite songs music that makes you happy, read a novel or book or be by yourself by taking a walk. Always try to enjoy the moment. Plan to join a yoga, tai-chi, or meditation class. Perhaps watching your favorite TV show can put you in a relaxed state. Relaxation is a procedure and is something that you might have to learn but it is easy to do. 

6. Try to retain as much control of your life as is reasonable:  Identify the areas in your life where you could benefit from assistance, and choose what help you want. Even the simplest things can help enhance your sense of control.

7.Communicate with your healthcare team: Be ready with a list of questions for each appointment. Always clarify the terms you do not understand. Keep the copy of your medical records in files, especially including the pathology reports that confirmed your melanoma. If possible try to go for abnormal x-rays or scans to have a better sense of understanding of your status. it is important to develop a good relationship with your doctor and considering a second opinion on your diagnosis and treatment plan.

8.Devise a plan: You need to develop a plan to coordinate medical and emotional care and support in managing your illness. Go for specialized psychosocial services, if needed and identify support organizations in your area or locality that can assist you with specific needs. Remember that your doctors and caregivers can even help.

9.Engage with other cancer survivors: Cancer patients often find a sense of comfort in communicating with other people who share their experiences - either by meeting them in person, online or by phone. The cancer support organizations such as The Wellness Community, the Melanoma International Foundation, and the Melanoma Research Foundation, helps people to connect and share their experiences about melanoma.

10.Be Hopeful for many things: Understand that hope is desirable and reasonable. Be a fighter and know that there are millions of people in the world today for whom cancer is just a memory. Believe that even your own cancer recovery is possible; and for that, you can set small goals and enjoy daily pleasures. Indulge in activities, go to a concert or participate in a religious study class. Never avoid any birthday, anniversary, or other events for someone you love. Redefine how you perceive hope. People who find things that give them hope are often better equipped to handle whatever challenges lie ahead. Always be encouraging and speak about what gives you hope and what you hope for-now and in the future. Don't forget to share these positive thoughts with your family, friends, and the members of your healthcare team.